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Should I Get Married to a Man with Dogs that hate my Cats? Cat Lovers Speak Out

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We posed a question to our wonderful cat lovers.


I love cats and my fiancé loves dogs. I have 3 cats and he has 2 dogs. His dogs seem to hate cats and my cats hate (are afraid of) dogs. I love him but don't know what to do.

  • Leave him and find a cat lover - 14.0%
  • Get rid of your cats - 0.2%
  • Ask him to get rid of his dogs - 0.5%
  • Live together and figure how if it will work - allow the cats to live upstairs and the dogs down to start - 86.5%

    Most cat lovers said : Live together and figure how if it will work - allow the cats to live upstairs and the dogs down to start.

    We further asked for comments on why the responders felt one way or another. This is what they told us:

    1.        gradually let the animals get to know each other on neutral ground
    2.        There are many references about how to blend households. Pick up some books and learn strategies.
    3.        Try to introduce them slowly maybe in a cat carrier, you have to be in the room and your boyfriend needs to supervise his dogs, one by one let them sniff the carrier. Leave something in the room with the smell of your cat where the dogs are and vice versa ( a dog toy). Also a good idea is to have a plush dog in the room with cats
    4.        Requires vigorous/relentless dog training-perhaps hire help: dogs are life threatening to cats -but cats are rearely life threatening to dogs-the cats will adjust if you just make sure they are safe
    5.        Introduce them gradually - feed near each other on opposite sides of the door so they can smell each other. Leash the dogs and allow the cats near them to smell in a safe situation.
    6.        this is hard. If you two are building a life together, you will both have to reconcile the pet situation for one another and each other's pets. sometimes pets can grow to tolerate each other, but they do need their space; it can't be forced.
    7.        Not gonna touch this one.
    8.        If the two of you marry and buy a home, I would definitely look for an arrangement where the animals can be kept separate from one another and still be a part of things
    9.        Dogs and cats will eventually learn to tolerate and even like each other once they become familiar with each other. It has certainly happened in our family before.
    10.        Gently introduce the animals in small steps and let them get accustomed to each other separate them when you and your fiance are not at home
    11.        also consult a behavioral specialist to make it work
    12.        and dont just get rid of these pets to get laid for a while, really. cuz you wont always luv him/her your furry friends - you ought to.
    13.        keep them separated.. 3 cats and 2 dogs is too much inside....
    14.        hire an animal behaviorist to resolve this problem.
    15.        depends whom you love more, your cats or your fiancee
    16.        Introduce gradually and on an individual basis.
    17.        eventually they get use to it. I captured a feral stray cat. She gets along great with my dog now.
    18.        my aunt has this same issue and this has worked out for them
    19.        This would depend on how much they all hate each other. Maybe they could gradually get aquainted and become friends. As long as the dogs aren't the type that would attack the cats.
    20.        time will tell
    21.        start off with the dogs on lead and always watch their time together until this has settled
    22.        Depends on the hostility level. Territorial rights are in jeopardy and the dogs cannot be vile but only curious while this is going on. Trim the cats nails, all of them, so no dangerous encounters ensue during this learning time.
    23.        It is called a water bottle. The dogs will stop chasing the cats when they get squirted. And the cats will learn to avoid the dogs. But will eventually co-exist. My husband had a dog that loves to chase squirrels and my cat hated everyone/everything. Now they cuddle at night.
    24.        i wonder why you are just addressing this issue now that he is your FIANCE. have you ever seem how they interact together? if you wont live together as a big family then id not marry him. love works things out and never wants someone to get rid of an animal they love and the animals loves them. never.
    25.        they can learn to live together
    26.        slowly introduce the animals to each other. keep the dogs or cats in a separate room so that the animals can sniff each other from under the door.
    27.        If he doesn't like cats, he probably never will. She would later regret getting rid of the cats.
    28.        Let them get used to each other before throwing them together full time
    29.        or it might be better to start over with a new dog and cat. Doesn't say how old the animals are.
    30.        Go to an animal behaviorist to see if you can acclimate them and build relationship. I have seen it happen. Still give them safe and seperate spaces - and be sure the two of you are right for each other.
    31.        keep them seperated but able to smell and see each other. Eventually they will get used to each other and the barriers can be taken down gradually. First while you're there for short periods of time. As you see conditions improving add time to their conditioning
    32.        Live together and work on socializing all the pets
    33.        Sit down and work it out BEFORE you get married; both decide who is more important - spouse or pets
    34.        Have a trial living arrangement and see if the dogs will learn to be calm around the cats and not hurt them.
    35.        Do not cancel the marriage because of pets. Keep the ones who will get along and give away the others.
    36.        If it doesn't work you will have to decide who will live without their cats/dogs possibly forever. Frankly, as cold as it sounds, I wouldn't be with someone if I had to get rid of my animals.
    37.        reintroduce them in a "feel safe" environment for cats.
    38.        and if what I checked off doesn't work then leave him and find a cat lover LOL !!
    39.        Retrain the pets before you move in together
    40.        how strong are his other qualities??

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