81. As animals start living together, they soon adapt to the situation. We have had this problem in the past, but with some stern reprimands (done with love) and a few "leave the kitties alone", our dog has adapted quite well; in fact our little cat (about 7 lbs) will back the dog (about 60-70 lbs) into a corner.
82. Try introducing them all very slowly and in small doses....constantly supervised, of course. Maybe keep the dogs in a certain room for an hour or so, then have them leave and stay out of that room and put the cats in that room for an hour or so. Let them get familiar with each others' scent by alternating the two groups in one room for a week or so. See if there is a chance for them to learn to get along. Go from there.
83. I would not be able to give up my cats and it would be cruel to ask you partner to give up the dogs. Break off the relationship and find a cat-lover.
84. As long as the dogs don't try to kill the cats, you can probably work this out. Consult an animal behaviorist. If it doesn't work (and you don't even have to live together first), then find a new guy. ;) Oh, my cats say they would not want to be confined upstairs.
85. This situation will never work. Is his dogs aggressive towards your cats. You never said what type of dogs they were. Certain breeds can maul cats. How old are the animals. Need more info to give you a better answer on this one.
86. Fight like cats and dogs, huh? WOW! Some animals have accepting personalities; others do OK if they grow up together or one thinks it has raised the others. Where there's a will there's a way.
87. Introduce them slowly and constantly to each other with supervision. Hopefully they will eventually get used to each other's presence.
88. consult with a behaviorist?
89. Introduce them slowly, bring their scent into each other's home to facilitate the transition. Go slow.
90. Each give up until only haveone dog and one cat, then do behavior training with both
91. Trust me on this.
92. Consider contacting a dog trainer / animal psychologist. It may seem a little bit extreme, but sometimes relationships are work including those with animals, and this seems like it may be one of those times. If you value your relationships with your fiance AND your pets, then it's worth it.
93. Engage an animal behavier expert to train the animals to get along.
94. Not sure how to answer this one, but would rather see it worked out so that everyone could live in harmony.
95. Like new step children, they have to learn to deal with it. Separate the pets if they are in danger and go from there?
96. Who says you can separate the species? If you're living in a one-bedroom, the question is, can you train them to get along. If you can't, you need to decide what comes first, your human relations, your companion relations, and/or your overall sanity.
97. The dogs and cats need to get used to each other. You should have them separated but all still in the house and take blankets with the dog scent to the cats and cat scent to the dogs. After about a week you should let them interact supervised. Once they have gotten used to each other all should be fine.
98. Asking either one to give up their pets isn't right. However, you will need to establish clear boundaries. Since the dogs are a larger threat to the cats than vice versa, he will have to assume the larger part of the responsibility of keeping the animals separated.
99. J/k! Or work on the dynamics and see if your vet can provide some advice on training or intrducing them to each other safely in 'neutral' territory.
100. Your pets are forever faithful. A human may not be. Don't give up your pets, but figure out an arrangement as the dogs stay outside, the cats in. When the dogs come in for a couple of hours, then the cats are in a quiet space all to them selves.
101. Should have thought about this before getting engaged. Owning pets is a priviledge and shouldn't be sacrificed. See if you can make it work without too much grief.
102. and stay loose. The cats and dogs can feel tension and act accordingly
103. My daughter did this & it has been over 2 years & it is working.
104. You're not compatible in the long run.
105. Separate them for a time after he wedding, and gradually put them together. It may work out.
106. This relationship has inherent problems. This one will come back to haunt you for years if you don't settle it now. You may be able to get the cats and dogs to co-exist.
107. call the cat whisper in
108. Keep the Dog outside, and the Cat inside
109. When ready to replace them because of age and illness, get a puppy
and kitten to raise together
110. Haven't a clue on this one
111. there may not be a compomise here, perhaps get a big house and keep the cats in and the dogs out or somehow keep them separate. How much do you love him?
112. The menagerie may work it out on its own, if not, doesn't love conquer all?
113. It may just be a matter of everyone learning how to live together peacefully. If it cannot be done, some may have to be adopted out.
114. do what is best for the animals.
115. have the animals meet on neutral ground. see how the dogs react and move on from there.
116. ask a pro to suggest a course of action
117. Or call the Dog Whisperer
118. They will learn to adjust and like each other if you spend time with them and introduce them to each other slowly
119. Animals can adapt if allowed to adapt.
120. it can take a long time, but they'll eventually sort themselves into a hierarchy---and maybe even make some new friends! be sure to supervise them when together until they learn their manners!
121. Try and find a way to "marry" all parties together. It will be a good test of both relationships.
122. Lady, You have a Problem; Just like Houston...
123. Don't worry about it...they WILL adjust!
124. We did this with two cats and a Rottweiler. We set up a room where the door would only open a couple of inches. Kept the cats closed their for a few days to get used to the dog smell, then opened the door with that stopper and let them come and go. Took a few days for them to get near the door, but little by little they got used to the dog and he to them. Got to where they would sleep together and the cats would play with him by going up and touching noses with him and running so he would chase them. Fun to watch, hard on furniture (BIG dog!)
125. Work w/the animals to adapt to each other. You'd be amazed at what animals can do. Adopting a pet is for life. You don't just "get rid" of them to suit your lifestyle. If you had children and they didn't get along you wouldn't get rid of them would you? And if all else fails.. get rid of the fiance.. they're easier to replace.
126. They will eventually get along
127. HAVE CESAR MILAN HELP YOU KEEP YOUR PETS
128. Personally, I would have to end the relationship
129. be very careful with this optoin so a cat doesn't get killed
130. blend the family for short periods of time, then extend the time over a period of weeks or even months.
131. wow, this is tough. don't really know how you'd handle it
132. Keep the dogs outside and the cats in if you have a house, if apartment get rid of the dogs