How do you deal with grief?

How do you deal with grief?

Our question this week was:

Hi Dr. Debra – My name is Sally – my daughter lost her cat about 2 months ago and she is…inconsolable. It sounds strange but she has even talked about suicide because she misses her cat molly so much. Do you have any advice.



Hi – thanks for your email. Sally – I’m very sorry to hear about your daughter. Grief is a funny thing – it can really affect some people in different ways. It is really hard to loose a beloved pet. I know that from personal experience. I’ve seen clients have similar reactions to your daughter.

When someone states they are considering suicide – I take that VERY seriously. It is a cry for help. I’d rather not tell you little things to do or say…I’d recommend that you get her professional help.

You can call a local counselor or contact some grief hotlines to find out your first step.

Below are some numbers as well as some websites that might be helpful.

  • ASPCA Grief Counseling. 212-876-7700 ext. 4355; pager 800-946-4646, PIN 1407211
  • Iams Pet Loss Support Center. 888-332-7738 (Monday-Saturday 8am-8pm)
  • Pet Loss Support Hotline at the University of California, Davis, School of Veterinary Medicine. 1-800- 565-1526.
  • Pet Loss and Human Bereavement Education Program at the Ohio State University College of Veterinary Medicine. 1-614.292.1823
  • Pet Loss Support Hotline-Staffed by Tufts University veterinary. 508-839-7966 students
  • Iowa State University Pet-Loss Support Hotline. 888-478-7574
  • Pet Loss Support Hotline, Cornell University. 607-253-3932
  • University of Florida Pet Loss Support Hotline. 352-392-4700 ext. 4080 (calls returned 7:00-9:00 pm)
  • Websites
    • (Association for Pet Loss and Bereavement)
    • (Pet Love & Loss Network)

    An article that might be helpful to you is Coping with Pet Loss.

    In addition, some books that might be helpful include:

  • Coping with Sorrow on the Loss of Your Pet, Moira Anderson, Peregrine Press, Colorado 1991. Chapter 5: “The Final Decision.”
  • When Your Pet Dies: How to Cope with Your Feelings, Jamie Quackenbush, Simon & Schuster, New York 1985, Chapter 3: “Your Reactions to Choosing Euthanasia.”
  • Pet Loss: A Thoughtful Guide for Adults & Children, Herbert Neiburg and Arlene Fischer, Harper & Row, New York 1982.Best of luck!Dr. Debra

    P.S. Do any of your pet lovers have any other suggestions for helping someone deal with pet loss?

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