A child rests with her head against a dog's fur.

Helping Kids Say Goodbye to a Dog

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Death can be difficult to children to understand and it can be equally difficult as an adult to know what to say or do to help a child say goodbye to a beloved dog. There are things you can do to help your child deal with dog loss and cope effectively. There are also things you should never do or say to a child when losing a dog.

One of my earliest memories is of standing on my grandmother’s front porch as we greeted our family veterinarian, back in the days of house calls. The tone was somber, though I remember a laugh or two through tears. I remember the canine matriarch of the family, Holly, resting on a favorite blanket, as we all patted her to say our goodbyes. That Alaskan Malamute was a big part of my small world.

My daughter is about the same age that I was in this photo. Now, every morning, we descend the stairs to be greeted by our senior dog, Lyger.

My girl screeches with delight and he wags his back end. The two of them only know how to greet each other with the utmost enthusiasm. My gut worries about the day when it’s time to say goodbye.

Clearly past the point where she won’t notice if he’s gone, but far too young to grasp the concept of death, I’ve been researching what we’ll say when the day comes. Here’s what I’ve gleaned:

Things Never to Do or Say to a Child Dealing with Dog Loss

Try to avoid causing your kid a need for therapy later in life:

How to Have a Conversation With Your Child About Dog Loss:

Ways to Help Kids Cope with Dog Loss:

Read books about pet loss. Sometimes, just hearing that another child suffered a similar loss can put the young mind at ease. Sitting down quietly for a story can encourage your child to open up to you about her feelings and give her an opportunity to talk to you about good memories while she has your undivided attention. Your personal beliefs will play a big role in your approach or the story you choose, but I love the painted illustrations in Dog Heaven.

Create a Pet Memorial or Tribute With Your Child

A memorial service or burial ceremony for your dog may help older kids, but it may be too much when the wound feels too fresh. When your child is ready, get his or her involved in creating a fitting keepsake about your dog. Have her draw a picture or write a story about a happy memory with the dog. Create a picture frame or keepsake box with photos, trinkets, and special items. If your child wants to keep the dog’s collar and a favorite toy close by, it might help her feel like they’re not gone entirely. Scrapbooking or reminiscing about good memories about happier times will help both of you.

Don’t Jump to Replace a Dog For Your Child

Bringing a new dog into the home shortly after a loss is a sure way to build resentment and delayed bonding between the child and new dog. It’s okay to follow the child’s lead about when she might want a new dog. If it seems like it might be comforting, consider a stuffed animal or blanket that serves as a physical comfort.

While Lyger and I have had many years together, my daughter has had him by her side since her earliest days. He’s been with her for her entire life, so it’s only natural that the grieving process will take some time. When the time comes, patience and empathy will get us through it. In time, we’ll look back at the good memories we shared together.

I hope these tips help you know what to do and not do if you have a child and loose a beloved dog.

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